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Sunday, January 22, 2012

New Horizons

As the New Year began I considered what I wanted to achieve.  Feeling like I needed a project or something creative to inspire me and build my enthusiasm, I pondered returning to study, becoming involved in some sort of youth outreach or doing something creative on the home front such as sewing or photography. 

Being time poor with regard to adding anything new to my already busy life, it suddenly dawned on me to extend my current volunteering role in ToughLove to a leadership role.  Having been a member of ToughLove for over a year now I felt that it was time to take on new challenges and assist at a group leadership and perhaps Queensland Management level.  I have now had the title of Public Relations Officer for Corinda group bestowed upon me.  It is a great honour and one which I take very seriously.  I have always been enthusiastic about marketing and public relations especially when it is for a cause which I am passionate about.   I am a true advocate of ToughLove, the support and information which it provides.  It does work!!!  As Public Relations Officer for the group I will be promoting our group and the ToughLove program to schools and the community at large.
When I first came to ToughLove I was desperate for a solution as many other parents are, when faced with such challenges as teenager turmoil, drug or alcohol related violence and mental health, psychotic episodes, to name just a few.  I remember sitting patiently listening to the information given at orientation, all the while wanting a quick fix, an instant solution to turn my feral teenager back to the beautiful innocent little blue eyed girl she once was. 

Now I am the person taking the new, battle weary, parents through orientation, being very aware of the circumstances which have brought them to the group.  They too are looking for quick fixes, someone or something to make it all better NOW!!!  They are warmly welcomed with the time-honoured greeting “We’re glad to see you….. We’re sorry you had to come.”
My message to new parents is to just keep coming to your ToughLove group where you will receive information, support and the comfort of knowing you are not alone in your struggles as there are other parents enduring similar circumstances to you.  There are also parents who have endured challenges, learnt new skills, received support and information from their toughLove group and who are now enjoying a positive relationship with their ToughLove kids.  I am one of those parents.

So here is an update on my own ToughLove story. 
My Toughlove daughter is now making a life of her own, taking responsibility for her own health and happiness and for her own choices.  She now lives in Melbourne.  I visited her a few months ago and was amazed at the transformation.  She has gone from being an angry, defiant, feral teenager with little to no respect for her parents or herself, to a beautiful young woman, blue eyes sparkling with health, revealing a renewed enthusiasm and zest for life and a hope for the future.  My beautiful blue eyed girl is now a beautiful young woman who has taken ownership of her problems and challenges and has taken responsibility for her own destiny.  She regrets the anguish which she caused her parents and is making amends. 

This is a ToughLove success story.
It can be your ToughLove success story. 

It won’t happen overnight but it will happen!!! 



  1. Great blog, Wendy - a breath of fresh air ! Good to find a blog for parents of teenagers - we are in a totally different space to that of parents of younger children. Glad I found you !

    1. Thanks for your comments Astermac. I am so glad that you found my blog helpful. I can remember complaining about my tantruming toddlers and my older sister, with teenagers saying "at least you know where your kids are!!!" So true!!! Yep parenting teenagers is a whole new mine field however there is always help and always hope. You are not alone. My lifeline has been ToughLove.

      Thank you again for reading my blog and taking the time to comment. Take Care.

  2. Hi Wendy! Yes you do have a great and much needed blog. It is so difficult raising teens today with all the challenges they face. It truly matters that we are not alone in this journey. I am a professional in the field of Drug and Alcohol Prevention among youth and work with communities across the Panhandle of Nebraska. I wanted to offer you and your readers a resource that includes helpful tips for parents and teens as well as the latest in trends with our teens. You can find information on our website at and like our Facebook page to stay up on current tips and trends at

    Thanks again for your blog and support in raising our kids.

    Jann Lawler

    1. Thanks Jann for your comments and for providing a wonderful resource for parents.

      Keep up the good work.

      Wendy Moore